Are they just assholes or is it something deeper?
Apartment doors are often fire rated, so they may be big and heavy. This, and other factors, can result in the door needing to be pushed hard to close easily.
This is my experience in the apartment I used to live. I eventually shaved the sides of the door so it would close without needing as much force too.
Door at my old apartment always “slammed shut”. It was heavy and probably the pressure change factored in.
I was bothered by it so I bought some rubber bumper things (sold for cabinets) to help. It did help.
But I never intentionally slammed that door.
It was just heavy and some pressure difference would pull it fast.
Some are assholes. Others have zero self-awareness. I stress about every little offense I might have possibly made, while astoundingly many others run around unaware that they are being jerks all day. I suspect the unnecessary playing of audio out loud in public stems from a very similar cause.
Confronting those who lack self-awareness is hard for those of us with excessive awareness, but it often gets the job done. Also a quick litmus test for who’s just unaware and who’s really an asshole.
Have you noticed this phenomenon increasingly often, or has it been much the same throughout your years?
I’ll just offer one particular situation. I have a door to my kitchen that is metal and glass like a sliding door but swings on a hinge. More mass than a typical wooden door and it swings on the hinge very freely, no resistance to slow it down. So it swings with pretty much the velocity you give it, and it requires a decent amount to make it latch.
Commonly I go in or out with stuff in my hands so I can rarely close it slowly and carefully. I end up giving it a little shove, often with my foot. If you get the force just right, it will latch with out being loud, but it has to be just right. Any less and it doesn’t latch. Any more and it slams pretty loudly. It’s really hard to get right, an not slam it more loudly than you intend. And I’m sensitive to noise so it’s not like I don’t care. But with this particular door it’s hard to avoid.
My wife’s family was like that when I met them. Stomping around, chewing loudly, and TV super loud. When we moved in together, we got our hearing checked and it turned out she had a genetic issue that fused her stapen (hammer bone in the ear) into a fixed position which meant severe hearing impairment. Luckily a surgeon can replace the stapen with a titanium micro prosthesis that solves the problem.
Just after the procedure she called me downstairs because she said she was hearing weird noises and it turned out to be the refrigerator compressor she had never heard before. After both ears were completed, a lot of the loud behavior stopped.
I really think that some subset of these people just have hearing loss.Nah just egotistical assholes.
Probably the building forces an air pressure difference between the corridors and the units to keep air circulating, their door closer doesn’t arrest the door properly, and the air pressure causes it to slam if they don’t carefully close it gently.
My door as well as the other 8 people on the floor don’t seem to have this problem
Okay? So at the risk of stating the obvious application of my previous comment: maybe kindly suggest to the occupant or the manager that their door closer needs to be adjusted?
Okay? My question wasn’t how to deal with it, I’m well aware of how to deal with it?
Ooohhhh, you want to bitch about it. Tcchhh, my bad. They’re absolutely assholes and I think I heard them say they do it just because it annoys you. You’re the one on the end, right?
People definitely love you for your personality
I know tone doesn’t come across but I was only being partially ironic. I recognize that sometimes one just needs to bitch. My neighbour across the hall has no concept of being mindful not to bother people while in the halls. He’s a no-joke seven foot tall guy with a booming voice and no volume control. I know every single fucking time he enters or leaves the building, because he’s always ALWAYS on his phone in the corridors. He speaks some African language that I am sure normally sounds delightful, but when a literal giant is approaching my door while shouting in a foreign language, it’s kinda stressful. I can hear him in my entire apartment! Shit, now you got me doing it.
People definitely love you for your personality
Are they just assholes or is it something deeper?
This is probably it. In my door I have to close it with some force unless a window is open then its big boom time.
I used to live in an apartment on a busy street and befriend some of my neighbors. One day, we were helping some other friends of ours move in to a new home. They’re from a quieter part of the town.
They were absolutely baffled that we all just walked in and out of rooms slamming doors everytime.
What’s in our mind? Well, honestly, we just pay no mind. Where we lived, the background noise was just so loud that the sound of doors being slammed weren’t a bother.
My downstairs neighbors at my old apartment were so fucking obnoxius about slamming the door. If they were doing something in the yard they’d go in and out constantly, slamming the doors like the house owed them money about 20 times/hour. It was an old building, and everything would shake every single time they had to go through any door.
I just think a lot of people simply don’t give a shit about anyone else around them.
Or maybe they’re just a different kind of autistic from you.
Possibly, I’m not autistic though.
so any kind would be a different kind, then
Not in an apartment right now, but I do tend to absentmindedly slam things. Sorry, I don’t mean to be loud.
They might not be noticing the noise. Earwax buildup, reduced hearing or different angles etc.
Could be that they are in a hurry or that the door is tight too?
Some people are just loud. I might be the exact opposite. I always walk like a ninja. i prefer headphones, and i hate slamming doors. I once had a girlfriend who would slam doors in my house like it’s nothing. She was tiny compared to me, but i could hear her walk around upstairs, which i didn’t know was possible because i have concrete ceilings and an insulated floor.
Thanks, AI slop.
Would it help if I slammed it EXTRA-HARD, my lil’ cutey…?
Nepo babies
Theyre not terrified of what people think , like me
God, can you imagine just walking around like that? Sounds amazing.
My door’s latch is really hard to engage Takes quite a few tries in winter to get it to latch.
