I (32m) haven’t had sex in 5 months and it’s driving me insane. Never been in a relationship and mostly had sex with prostitutes. Self pleasing myself is getting old and have to be high to even enjoy doing it. Women are just to complicated to talk to and get with. I’ve almost just given up on them completely and accepted being single for life as I am about to be 33yo in a couple months with no optimism of that changing ever. So yeah if there is anyone in the same boat that possibly has social anxiety and loneliness let me know how you cope.
I don’t know your full story, but a skim through your posts makes it feel like you have some internal things you need to address, and I mean that in a helpful way.
You really sound like you would want to have a partner, but you seem to be chasing symptoms and not core issues.
I’d recommend reading some of today’s thread on overcoming incel-like behavior. I shared a bunch of my personal story on there in BodePlotHole’s reply, and reading that and some other comments in there might be of real value to you.
That’s about all the help any of these posts are going to get you, and most of it is not bad advice. There’s no quick-fix other than the stuff you’re already getting burnt out of trying. You’re going to have to put in real work and take yourself seriously if you want to get out of this hole you’re in and find a happier life.
Again, not here to lecture you, do what you want, but I think your solution is fixing you, not continuing to ignore things and smooth them over temporarily with prostitutes and substances.
You deserve a medal. I couldn’t even imagine responding to this post without speaking down to OP, so I opted to move on. Thank you for giving the advice he needs to hear and not sounding like a cunt about it they way I would have.
I don’t like when people trash the OP in cases like this. Sometimes they are trolls or attention seekers, but at least at first, everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt. I appreciate you not crapping on him. He already has that covered, and more certainly isn’t going to fix him.
I only got out of my own mess because enough people were patient with me. If I can give some of that back, that’s just me passing some of that grace I was given forward.
I will work on myself not that it has ever done anything before and it’s just pointless even trying with women anymore tbh
2.8 billion-ish adult women on this planet. Even with all of the internet porn you’ve seen, people you’ve met in real life or ever seen on a screen, is such a tiny drop in the ocean of humanity. Even if you refuse to internalize the great advice all up and down this thread that boils down to “have empathy”, it is still a game of numbers in your favor. No doubt, if you didn’t change, there would still be a fantastic chance of finding someone broken enough to get into a co-dependent situationship with sex with you. So chin up, bro.
Appreciate your optimism for my sad soul
Every day gives you another chance. It’s really freaking hard when you’re down in a hole like this. That’s why I said to check out that other post. Many of us have been in similar spots. We’re here to help, but we can’t give you answers cuz we aren’t you. You need to work every day to find what does work for you.
There’s no secret to being liked by women. It’s the same as being liked by anyone. You have to be someone likeable, not just fake likeable, and it starts with valuing yourself enough to lift yourself out of the mental place you are at. This is like anything else, you got to build from the bottom up with a strong foundation.
This is part of the problem. This is a part of you that you need to work on. If you don’t change your mindset you’re going to bring it with you into all of your interactions with women and it will poison them.
I understand the hopelessness, but you have to pull yourself out of it.