I (32m) haven’t had sex in 5 months and it’s driving me insane. Never been in a relationship and mostly had sex with prostitutes. Self pleasing myself is getting old and have to be high to even enjoy doing it. Women are just to complicated to talk to and get with. I’ve almost just given up on them completely and accepted being single for life as I am about to be 33yo in a couple months with no optimism of that changing ever. So yeah if there is anyone in the same boat that possibly has social anxiety and loneliness let me know how you cope.

  • Berttheduck@lemmy.ml
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    2 months ago

    You probably need to do some self reflection and examine your feelings towards women as to why you have those views. Have you considered therapy to help you with these feelings?

    Regarding coping without sex, for me it was always more the physical and emotional contact than sex itself. Hugs with friends and family help. Maybe something like a massage (not necessarily a happy ending) could help, having someone else pay attention to you and the physical touch with another human might help.

    • LeaveItToGod@lemmy.zipOP
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      2 months ago

      Yeah human touch from a woman ain’t gonna happen if it hasn’t already at this point. Women wanna be chased and that’s just not happening. I’m not going to be thirsty about it. I’ll just try to refocus my relationship with God and only care about myself, family, and friends as women are pointless to try doing anything with if money isn’t involved to get sex

      • birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        2 months ago

        As a woman in a relationship, I certainly don’t want to be chased (neither did I want it before the relationship started). I’m more attracted to people that treat me as a person, not as a fuck object. View it like this.

        Would you want someone to have a relationship with you only because you’re rich? Or because you’re a good person? True love is not what is centered around your body or what you have, but who you are.

        Friendship is a good way. It sounds paradoxical, but letting go of the idea of needing a partner and accepting that, makes you find a partner much quickier. It’s how most of my guy friends found theirs. You can achieve it, but God will not help you.

      • smiletolerantly@awful.systems
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        2 months ago

        I’m almost sorry to be blunt, but…

        Women don’t want to be chased. You’re a misogynist who has reduced women to “people to have sex with” in your own mind.

        If you change that, you gain the possibility of actual connections, including intimacy, with them; if you don’t, you don’t. Either way it’s up to you if you want the status quo to continue or to improve.