Or is there always some nagging feeling & angst about things you wish for & you’re not sure how to achieve them?
Of course not lmao. I’m pretty sure I will starve to death before I reach my parents age. Or at least experience famine.
Not perfect, but its okay and I’m feeling pretty good about myself currently. Theres just a few personal things I want, and to be able to sustain myself in the future and be able to get a place.
I wouldn’t describe it as angst but I wouldnt say I’m satisfied with my life. The dilemma is that I also don’t feel hopeful for the future. Ai (big tech generally) doesn’t make me look forward to the future. And just my home country too.
Yeah no. The world sucks and life sucks with it.
Is everything the way I want it? No, I could stand to lose a few pounds and be a bit stronger, make more money etc.
But I am comfortable and feel no angst.
It’s not perfect, but I’ve got quite a few of the things I wanted to have when I was imagining the future back then.
I’ve got a partner that I trust and love, I do the job that I wanted to be doing, albeit not the perfect company or the most satisfying position, I’m still in touch with the friends I wanted to keep (and happily not in touch with some of the rest), I’m no longer living with my parents and have two cats that are the perfect little creatures for company.
Some things could be better, many of them completely out of my control. My current goal is to just make my lifestyle healthier, I’m too sleepy all the time because of staying late trying to regain the time lost doing the boring adult things, and I get exhausted and out of breath extremely easily.
Sometimes being lonely hits like a truck. But it passes like grief that’s a few years old. Everything else is okayish. Have overcome the major life hurdles. Can’t complain.
I agree loneliness is killing me but everything else is keeping me alive like work & the money that comes from working even though work is torture, I’m in so much pain, but if I keep doing everything right, my reward is indulging in my exhilarating hobbies.
Epsom salts! …j/k :p
There is always something I want that I dont have. I dont focus on it anymore outside of having goals. I focus more on the plan and executing and living in the moment and its helped my mental health tremendously.
Having said that, im very fortunate to have all that I have, so its pretty easy for me to focus on the positives
Not perfectly, but I had a vision for where I wanted to be, and I more or less got there. I chose a reasonable short-term, stepping stone goal. I didn’t become brilliant, attractive, competent, or overcome my flaws. But like, I’m still here, and my life has marginally improved.
No. Next question.
Me too 😢 So the next question is, if your life was exactly the way you wish it would be, what are all the things that would be in it that are missing now?
I’ll go first 😢
I wish to fall in love with a man and we could live in a house on the California coast, but first I wish I had a personality that could attract a man like that. Because my personality has always been 😵💫 and I get panic attacks whenever someone talks to me. It’s a crippling problem and I need to figure this out.
❌ everything the way I want it
✅ comfortable
✅ no angst
🤷♀️ no nagging feeling
🤷♀️ sure how to achieve goalsI kinda broke into laughter when reading your question, at the absurdity of the idea. So that’s probably a no.
However, I’m doing better than I have been for a while, and am capable of laughter, so it’s not all bad.
However… capable of laughter
Proud of the strength of your optimism my king
Home life is great. I love my kids and my partner and they’re all amazing.
but I’m currently taken out of this feeling by stress and anxiety about work. To the point that my partner is concerned about my health. it’s really not good.
No. Things are not as I naively wished. Things never are.
But they can be their own kind of awesome, and that’s okay.
“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” John Lennon
Also in Buddhism desire is a primary source of suffering.
According to Taoism, the highest wisdom lies in aligning with the Tao: the natural, spontaneous way of the universe; rather than imposing one’s will upon it.
So life is not what I desired it to be, but I am trying to stop wanting it otherwise.
