I (32m) haven’t had sex in 5 months and it’s driving me insane. Never been in a relationship and mostly had sex with prostitutes. Self pleasing myself is getting old and have to be high to even enjoy doing it. Women are just to complicated to talk to and get with. I’ve almost just given up on them completely and accepted being single for life as I am about to be 33yo in a couple months with no optimism of that changing ever. So yeah if there is anyone in the same boat that possibly has social anxiety and loneliness let me know how you cope.

  • Are_Euclidding_Me [e/em/eir]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Hey, so, uh, you have some misogynist brainworms you’re definitely going to need to work through.

    It’s very, very clear from the way you write that you view women as a confusing monolith, as though every woman is the same as every other woman and you just don’t understand the “cheat codes” to get women to have sex with you.

    But that point of view is extremely incorrect. Women are people. Just like you. “Women” don’t want to be chased, some women do (and likely fewer than you think, actually, and also, there are men you want to be chased, even though societally we never hear about them). “Women” aren’t complicated to talk to, some women are difficult to talk to for the same reasons some men are difficult to talk to!

    Women aren’t a particular way, any more than men are a particular way, and if you treat women as a separate species to you, if you treat them as a monolithic confusing enigma, rather than as people, you will definitely struggle to have decent relationships with them.

    • LeaveItToGod@lemmy.zipOP
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      2 months ago

      So be it. I’ll just be single for life and have to start paying hookers again and waste my hard earned money for a hoe to make fast money

      • Are_Euclidding_Me [e/em/eir]@hexbear.netEnglish
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        2 months ago

        Or, and hear me out here, you practice seeing women as people, thereby improving your quality of life and your ability to have friendships with all different sorts of people.

              • Are_Euclidding_Me [e/em/eir]@hexbear.netEnglish
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                2 months ago

                So these were never real friendships on your part? You only care about these women if they have sex with you and any time you spend with them that isn’t leading to sex is wasted?

                  • Are_Euclidding_Me [e/em/eir]@hexbear.netEnglish
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                    2 months ago

                    Ok, but two comments ago you told me that “I do see them as people and that just ends up with me friendzoned by regular women.” (I’m not even going to touch what you might mean by “regular” there.)

                    And now you’re saying you have no friends who are women, because “all they do is start drama”.

                    So which is it? Do you have friends who are women or not?

    • Druid@lemmy.zipEnglish
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      2 months ago

      Thanks for taking the time to try and give useful advise. I think it’s lost on this one, sadly