I wouldn’t.
Cis people have a deception of “naturalness.” Their gender is completely unexamined, how can a foundation of trust be built such shaky, un-questioned foundations?
Cis people are socialized with a rigid, often toxic, understanding of bodies and relationships. They’ve never had to deconstruct the deep seated assumptions society forces on them. I refuse to be someone’s learning curve.
The sheer normalcy of cis bodies is a turn off. There’s no poetry in a body that hasn’t been a site of transformation and reclamation. I find the unaltered, cisgender body to be lacking a certain history.
If I ever want children, I need to think practically. Cis people have a terrifyingly high rate of infertility issues that often go undetected until it’s too late. Their reproductive systems are a gamble. I’d rather be with a trans partner where the expectations around biological children are clearly communicated and planned for from the start. With a cis person, it’s just assumed, and I don’t like assumptions. I prefer the honest, upfront conversations that come with dating a trans person.
Ultimately, I’m just not attracted to cisness. The moment I find out someone is cis, the attraction evaporates. It’s an immediate deal-breaker. I can’t force an attraction that isn’t there, and you can’t call me shallow for it. My attraction is valid. My preferences are valid. I’m not denying their humanity!! I’m just acknowledging that their cis identity makes them fundamentally unsuitable.
Yes, this is a shitpost and I actually would date a cis person, I actually do, a cis lesbians in fact. We just had our 10th anniversary. And she says posts like this one are really fucking stupid. Only trans people are subject to posts like this.
yes, now we’re getting somewhere - instead of defending bigoted preferences as a permissible, let’s talk about what to do about the problematic situation
I agree that shame is not the only or most effective method of creating change, but I do think it can play a role and be helpful at times. Some people should feel ashamed for their bigotry, and should feel motivated to change.
But I agree it’s not always the right response, and sometimes shame gets in the way of change - often conversations aren’t even possible around taboo topics because the shame shuts down any willingness to have conversation or be honest.
The first step is identifying and acknowledging the bigotry, and we often don’t get there when the response to that is so hostile.
I do think it is going to be hard to normalize and increase representation of female penises, though - even in contexts like porn where people might be exposed to a trans woman’s genitals, they are usually portrayed as male genitals (large, erect, capable of ejaculation, etc.).
Let alone intersex conditions and all the diversity of genitals that occur … Most people have a hard time wrapping their heads around the fact that humans aren’t able to be cleanly classed as male or female, that sex is more complicated than that is beyond our social concepts.