I wouldn’t.

Cis people have a deception of “naturalness.” Their gender is completely unexamined, how can a foundation of trust be built such shaky, un-questioned foundations?

Cis people are socialized with a rigid, often toxic, understanding of bodies and relationships. They’ve never had to deconstruct the deep seated assumptions society forces on them. I refuse to be someone’s learning curve.

The sheer normalcy of cis bodies is a turn off. There’s no poetry in a body that hasn’t been a site of transformation and reclamation. I find the unaltered, cisgender body to be lacking a certain history.

If I ever want children, I need to think practically. Cis people have a terrifyingly high rate of infertility issues that often go undetected until it’s too late. Their reproductive systems are a gamble. I’d rather be with a trans partner where the expectations around biological children are clearly communicated and planned for from the start. With a cis person, it’s just assumed, and I don’t like assumptions. I prefer the honest, upfront conversations that come with dating a trans person.

Ultimately, I’m just not attracted to cisness. The moment I find out someone is cis, the attraction evaporates. It’s an immediate deal-breaker. I can’t force an attraction that isn’t there, and you can’t call me shallow for it. My attraction is valid. My preferences are valid. I’m not denying their humanity!! I’m just acknowledging that their cis identity makes them fundamentally unsuitable.

Yes, this is a shitpost and I actually would date a cis person, I actually do, a cis lesbians in fact. We just had our 10th anniversary. And she says posts like this one are really fucking stupid. Only trans people are subject to posts like this.

  • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    3 months ago

    it’s a reaction to my post asking people if they would date someone you were attracted to if you found out they were trans

    that thread predictably exposes cis people’s transphobia, so this post flips the script as a wakeup call to cis people and their latent bigotry