I wouldn’t.
Cis people have a deception of “naturalness.” Their gender is completely unexamined, how can a foundation of trust be built such shaky, un-questioned foundations?
Cis people are socialized with a rigid, often toxic, understanding of bodies and relationships. They’ve never had to deconstruct the deep seated assumptions society forces on them. I refuse to be someone’s learning curve.
The sheer normalcy of cis bodies is a turn off. There’s no poetry in a body that hasn’t been a site of transformation and reclamation. I find the unaltered, cisgender body to be lacking a certain history.
If I ever want children, I need to think practically. Cis people have a terrifyingly high rate of infertility issues that often go undetected until it’s too late. Their reproductive systems are a gamble. I’d rather be with a trans partner where the expectations around biological children are clearly communicated and planned for from the start. With a cis person, it’s just assumed, and I don’t like assumptions. I prefer the honest, upfront conversations that come with dating a trans person.
Ultimately, I’m just not attracted to cisness. The moment I find out someone is cis, the attraction evaporates. It’s an immediate deal-breaker. I can’t force an attraction that isn’t there, and you can’t call me shallow for it. My attraction is valid. My preferences are valid. I’m not denying their humanity!! I’m just acknowledging that their cis identity makes them fundamentally unsuitable.
Yes, this is a shitpost and I actually would date a cis person, I actually do, a cis lesbians in fact. We just had our 10th anniversary. And she says posts like this one are really fucking stupid. Only trans people are subject to posts like this.
No, actually, I find that’s often not true.
I’ve found that people who are willing to date some ethnicities but not others often exhibit some level of unexamined bigotry, even if they are not abhorrent racists. But I’ve also seen that if they do have romantic experiences with people of that race, this can change, showing that the attraction wasn’t immutable, but rather based on something unexamined in their heads.
I think it’s good and healthy to examine what we find attractive and why.
I specifically was using the word SOME people, because obviously there are a lot of bigots out there. Yes, everyone should always examine and reexamine their beliefs throughout their life
Let’s say then, obviously, yes, a lot of the people who people who exclusively date particular ethnicities are doing so for bigoted reasons, demonstrating poor introspection, having their preferences dictated by bigotry and propaganda.
Doesn’t it stand to reason that a similar thing could be occurring with cis people who refuse to date trans people? That many of them are simply bigoted and influenced by propaganda, not having thoroughly examined their thought processes around this concept and instead allowed others to dictate their preferences?
Those many people might benefit from the reframing of that concept to one othering cis people. That is who this post is about.