Mine is evaluated based on how many of them were there for me when I was at my lowest. It’d be unfair for me to evaluate them based on communication, because then that’d mean that everyone would be gone, so that’d be unfair. I also don’t think evaluating people based on what they gift you or do for you is adequate either. So, yeah, I think the clear line basis of me removing a friend is about sheer balance.

I don’t like friendships that are just unrealistic. Where they want only and nothing but the best from you and for you. Friendships are about enduring someone’s worst and figuring it through too. If you just push someone away all of the time and leave them in dormancy where their mind tends to wander into places it shouldn’t. That’s one of the worst things a friend can do and it can also include up to things like not talking to them just for a check up every now and then.

So again, if more friends have let me down or dropping the ball, then that’s probably my reason.

  • schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works
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    1 day ago

    Great question, Toasticus@piefed.social.

    I don’t have any friends at the moment and have not for a long time because I find most people aren’t interested in friendship at all; they are interested in passing the time and think friends are a form of entertainment. At best, romance and family are the only things that matter to them. Friends are disposable.

    Or, if they are interested in friendship, it is after a perilous courtship period with no guarantee at the end.

    I would caution you about this, though:

    If you just push someone away all of the time and leave them in dormancy where their mind tends to wander into places it shouldn’t […]

    Your friends are not responsible for where your mind goes. You can fault them for not being supportive, sure, but your mind is 100% your responsibility, and if you can’t find friends to help you, try to figure something else out.