In popular culture as well as in personal stories told by many people there’s often mentions of spontaneously having sex in random places and sometimes with random people: in cars, in clubs, in bathrooms etc. But how do people do that without taking shower beforehand? Penetration is imaginable - if there’s no strong bad smell, it might be tollerable, but what about oral sex? Sounds vomit inducing.
Horny brain can override a lot of better judgement.
That’s why post-nut clarity is a thing.
Humans were having a lot of sex in historical situations where soap and daily bathing weren’t typical. We’re animals, you know.
But it’s also normal for people to have varied levels of drive and personal thresholds below which it is no longer worth it. I was demisexual most of my life, and I’m functionally asexual now that the mass consensus is that it’s okay to expose each other to sars-cov-2.
Aight, as someone that used to wash dirty bodies for a living, and insists on a level of cleanliness because of that, you’re way overestimating the funk most people have in the short term.
The typical person that’s bathing regularly (not even daily) and is changing clothing daily just isn’t going to smell that bad.
Hell, if a person is actively sweating, they’ll smell better because sweat will flush away the stuff that makes funky smell or taste, so all you get is saltiness.
For real, even in nursing homes with urinary incontinent patients, they didn’t stink just by virtue of being in a wet diaper for a while. A washcloth (or the equivalent) and a light scrub would remove any aroma. For an ambulatory adult using basic methods to clear residual urine, you might get the lightest hint at the end of a long day.
Mostly, genitals just smell genital-y. A little light musk, some hints of sebum scent, and maybe the generic scent of skin. It’s far from unpleasant, even when strong enough to detect while helping someone change clothes.
Now, I never went down on, or fucked a patient. Wouldn’t have been interested in crossing that line even if they were otherwise compatible.
But I have gotten freaky with people after their work, after workouts, etc. The truth is that if they stink it points to something being out of whack. It’s not the default at all. A person’s diet and intake of things has way more influence on their taste and similar to their scent than just being out and about randomly.
For real, while I do prefer such intimacy fresh out of a shower because of my history dealing with people that did have something out of whack, it’s not some kind of horrible experience otherwise. Like, it’s less unpleasant than kissing after eating roasted garlic (which isn’t really unpleasant tbh, just intense).
And it’s not like a full bath is going to be significantly better at knocking down UTI risks than a wipe it washcloth and a light attention.
Seriously, where did you get the idea that crotches stink that bad just walking around?
Wow this is some valuable information. It really puts things in a perspective. Thanks for sharing your experience!
Seriously, where did you get the idea that crotches stink that bad just walking around?
I’ve had some bad experience.
I bet you have some interesting stories.
I used to be banned from dinner tables because of that lol.
My initial thought was what you were like camping, sitting around a campfire, just chatting.
I’ve done that :)
Sometimes I get lucky and a given gathering is up for the really gnarly (but still entertaining rather than maudlin) stories, and I end up going on for quite a while lol.
He could be a bard singing at a camp fire, if you’ve play RDR2 i imagine a song like that.
I think you will find that people vary widely on their personal taste and tolerance in these matters.
Just as some love foods that others find completely offputting.
edit: typo
We exist because of a unbroken chain of horny humans existed in all types of conditions, only recently have showers been readily available. The human spirit will make due!
I’m more curious about how people have sex that spontaneously in random places?
It takes up to hours to get into the mood and any random place is likely uncomfortable and distracting enough to lose the hard earned mood.
Less about forcing a mood, it’s more about following when it does hit, exponential bonus points if you’re an exhibitionist.
Also, chemistry is huge, here. People work really weirdly in the head, so if, say, there’s a positive feedback loop in the dynamic, it can be explosive.
Clicker training is also valid. Or really any kind of training, which is likely what “pheromones” really is: horny people get stupid, funky unique smells happen, now you’ve built a taste for it.
Like literally just read about any kink ever.
And, if you aren’t feeling it, maybe try something or somebody different. Or maybe you’re ace spectrum, that’s totally valid, too.
Also, shame is a powerful thing. It causes people to do things and to not do things.
Basically, all people are weird, and that’s okay.
Yeah over the years I’ve found tha people are different and of course there’s nothing wrong in that. No ill will towards anyone on either end of the spectrum.
It’s just always surprising to see someone with a complete opposite of my experiences as i tend to forget about it completely and only reminded of it by outside influence and even then it takes effort.
That’s my secret, Cap - I’m always in the mood
Hats off, i envy you.
Oh don’t, this morning I’ve been trying to write a report, but at the back of my mind I have the dream from last week of me licking sweat from between my wife’s boobs, playing on repeat … it’s hard to maintain focus
Fair, i can see the downside of that, but having a permanent spank bank is a rather good benefit.
I wish I could just switch it on and off as needed, lol
I totally agree, on/off switch would be the best option.
For some people it’s a lot easier and faster to get in the mood.
Yeah i know, but it still suprises me. I envy those people.
jokes on you, i’m into that shit.
manstink drives me absolutely crazy.🥴
Depends on the man. A lot.
I had one once with that skin condition that means they always smell rotten, and it was not fun.
agreed
I wish my partner were like that. 😁
During that phase of my life. I was always clean. Because there was an expectation.
Pheromones have a big role in sex and pairing. Sex only after shower should be a definite no-no. You should have at least half a days skin excretion on. Otherwise from your bodys perspective you might as well be fucking a silicone doll and subconscious processes for pairing are left out.
This might be a reflection of your own hygiene. People are always surprised that I only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant because I look and smell so clean. Ive had orgiastic sex camped out in the woods where no one had access to bathrooms or showers and honestly it was no smellier or grosser than sexing people in a place with showers.
Good diet and doing laundry properly goes a long way but honestly some people are just nasty as fuck with their genitals and no amount of access to running water will change this. There’s unwashed pussies and dicks you will put in your mouth that taste wonderful and there are people who’s junk will smell like yeast and rotten meat even though they just took a shower
Sex is a little nasty anyways. If you’re not comfortable with other people’s taint you’re just not gonna be able to have as much sex. Not all taint is equal but it’s all taint
People are always surprised that I only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant because I look and smell so clean.
Um. I don’t think they’re surprised because you look and smell so clean. If you only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant, you stink and you’re nose blind.
Nah, he might just have good skin microbiome.
Wow. I got downvoted into oblivion for saying that people should shower everyday and wear deodorant. People on the Internet are not even remotely normal.
Absolutely this, there’s no way to be with more than one person and not have things end up sweaty and smelly even if you just showered … and I am so into that.
The odor of the partner is apart of the attraction. Not being able to shower afterwards is more of an issue, IMO.
Alcohol wipes. No, don’t actually do that … trust me.
Lol how to show your inexperience.
When you are in love/lust with the right person trust me anything goes and there’s no issue.
My ex-gf (RIP) (she’s not dead she just doesn’t like me now) did not rly wash her hair. Nevermind about that. Historically sex has often been terrifying. We have got it so good you have no idea
CW: S.A., the most horrifying shit i have ever heard, do not read this
Before the October Revolution marital rape and giving birth too frequently with a poor diet followed by manual labor (serfdom was incredibly crushing after serfdom was supposedly abolished too, nobody really got lashes for treating their wife this way) was so common in Russia that women would regularly suffer uterine prolapse. I even heard that midwives would use peeled potatoes to try to physically hold the vaginal canal in for healing after prolapse. We truly have a lot to atone for, collectively. How long do you think until we balance out the suffering that’s been caused? How do we know this isn’t hell? Maybe it doesn’t have to be for too much longer.
If you can’t say no on those conditions, do you think telling your husband that he stinks like a fucking dog would stop him? Stalin, where are you? It’s so dark in here. We need your help still
Marital rape after giving birth still happens at such a high frequency that labor and delivery nurses have systems for when a male partner forces himself on his birthing partner while they’re still in hospital.
What the fuck. I’ve never heard this, and I wished it stayed that way
I wish i could say the same, but I’m a woman who has given birth before.
STILL IN HOSPITAL
my fucking eyes
I’m surprised I haven’t seen the Napoleon letter telling his wife to not wash.
