In popular culture as well as in personal stories told by many people there’s often mentions of spontaneously having sex in random places and sometimes with random people: in cars, in clubs, in bathrooms etc. But how do people do that without taking shower beforehand? Penetration is imaginable - if there’s no strong bad smell, it might be tollerable, but what about oral sex? Sounds vomit inducing.

  • Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.orgEnglish
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    11 天前

    I’m more curious about how people have sex that spontaneously in random places?

    It takes up to hours to get into the mood and any random place is likely uncomfortable and distracting enough to lose the hard earned mood.

    • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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      10 天前

      Less about forcing a mood, it’s more about following when it does hit, exponential bonus points if you’re an exhibitionist.

      Also, chemistry is huge, here. People work really weirdly in the head, so if, say, there’s a positive feedback loop in the dynamic, it can be explosive.

      Clicker training is also valid. Or really any kind of training, which is likely what “pheromones” really is: horny people get stupid, funky unique smells happen, now you’ve built a taste for it.

      Like literally just read about any kink ever.

      And, if you aren’t feeling it, maybe try something or somebody different. Or maybe you’re ace spectrum, that’s totally valid, too.

      Also, shame is a powerful thing. It causes people to do things and to not do things.

      Basically, all people are weird, and that’s okay.

      • Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.orgEnglish
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        10 天前

        Yeah over the years I’ve found tha people are different and of course there’s nothing wrong in that. No ill will towards anyone on either end of the spectrum.

        It’s just always surprising to see someone with a complete opposite of my experiences as i tend to forget about it completely and only reminded of it by outside influence and even then it takes effort.