I’m 19 now and engaged to my 17-year-old girlfriend, whom I’ve been with for three years. We have a wedding planned for September 2026. It has always been my dream to have a family of my own, and that motivated me to propose: why wait if you know what you want? Thankfully, my parents are supportive, and I’m aware that without them, none of this would be possible at our age.

  • Mr Fish@lemmy.world
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    11 days ago

    It’s basically impossible to say without knowing the two of you much better than is possible in a post like this. I know 16 year olds who know enough about life and have a good enough relationship that I’d be confident they could have a healthy marriage, and I know 30 year olds who shouldn’t be going anywhere near proposing. At 20/18, yes, you’re young, but it’s definitely possible for you to be mature enough.

    Things to think about:

    • are both of your parents still together? Not saying it can’t work if they aren’t, but it does help the odds
    • have you fought over anything before? If so, was it something major, and how did you resolve it?
    • how well do you handle being bored together? You’ll spend the rest of your life together, and not every moment is entertaining

    This is some of the advice that me and my fiance (both 24) got from our parents and church community

    Edit: I should say, if you go for it, do some pre marriage counseling. There’s probably a lot of things you don’t know about married life, and it’s best to find an older couple that you know and trust to tell you about those things.