Yes, people can be terrible and cruel. Most of us here have been mocked unfairly at some point in our lives, and there’s almost never accountability.

It is best to just ignore those people. In your head you can say to them “Okay, loser” and move on - if they are mean, you don’t want to know them anyway.

AI writes technically good English, but it’s very bad at writing with style - it’s basically only got one style and it’s very easy to pick out. If you want to use AI, you should use it to improve your English writing. You can paste your message, ask it for tips on what you should change, and rewrite it yourself; don’t copy paste what the AI writes.

At the end of the day, you’re either going to sacrifice yourself for her happiness or you won’t. And to be honest it’s much more likely you won’t and shouldn’t; if you try you’d both be miserable. Whether or not she does it is entirely outside your control - even if she actively blames you, it’s her choice to make.

The most important thing is to be kind; I think you have to tailor that to the person so I don’t know if I can help with the phrasing, but maybe along the lines of how you have to work on yourself.

Also remember to leave if it starts to go circular.

I’ve said what I felt I needed to say, and I’m not sure further discussion will be productive

sort of thing. I’m sorry you’re in this spot bud, it’s a tough one, but no matter what happens it’s not your fault.

We are not talking about fucking in front of children, we are talking about the lived experience of people who that has happened to and how it affected them. That means you are the one drawing false equivalence (you are equating fucking in front of kids with talking about the impact it had on the person). These are life experiences and can be talked about without the need for any thought-policing by you.

I also made no assertions that the OP was asking for permission to be a paedophile.

Is that so…

just asking this question seems noncey

This you?

just asking this question seems noncey

But why? Would it be noncey to talk about whether we got circumcised as children and how we feel about it now?

Most people who get circumcised are fine with it and think it’s weird or gross to not be. I’m not cut and I hate the idea of it ever being done to me though. Odd how reality defies expectation there. I wonder if that is true of other men too. Hmm, maybe there are other topics this could also be true in, do you possibly think?

This question is about the habits of people’s parents, and how it affected them growing up. This is not a question about fucking kids, and interpreting it as such is so out there it borders on the deliberate, which seems pretty fucking noncey to me. Why are you interpreting this as asking for permission to fuck kids?

Don’t think this will affect anything other than his cronies’ attempt at looting our country. The rest of us don’t get a look-in.

Why do people ask for me to fix their computer issues, only to ignore me or tell me I’m wrong when I give them the solution? Yet it happens every day. People are weird, man.

I do this always. It’s the “I’m not a threat” thing. I prefer the discomfort or personal inconvenience to being seen as a threat or even causing anxiety in that direction. Maybe it makes no difference, that’s fine, maybe they think I’m weird, also fine as long as it has the intended effect of getting across that I am not a threat. It’s worth it for the times it does matter.

Report them to ICE?

We let them call themselves that. Just stop respecting their self-identification, they’ve basically abdicated any right to our respect anyway by breaking the social contract.

Hopefully, some folks smarter and more capable than me can figure it out.

I have some terrible, chilling news for you: nobody is that much smarter or more capable than you. We’re all in the same boat, looking at each other with raised eyebrows while the screeching gibbons some other arsehole put in charge throw their own shit at each other instead of doing their supposed jobs. Some of the crew have tried bailing out the bilge or correcting course to avoid the impending iceberg, but then they get hit by gibbon shit with startling accuracy. Everyone’s varying levels of worried, nobody has any answers.

edit: sorry, allowed myself a little fun with the analogy. It’s a dark morning. I don’t think some extraordinary hero is going to come fix this, though.

If you have any experience in software development, you’d realize it makes sense more often than not to use other people’s solutions if they exist before building your own.

First of all, I’d advise avoiding talking down to people unless you’re damn sure you know what you’re talking about. But, since you’re comfortable patronising people you know nothing about because they call you on your bullshit, then I’ll stoop to your level to get the message across:

If you knew anything at all about engineering, software or otherwise, you’d know the best solution is the one that does exactly what you want for the lowest cost. By your own admission in your post, existing Lemmy instances do not do what you want because you are not in control of the moderation. That is the actual problem because the only solution to your complaint - that you don’t like the way the instances are moderated - is to moderate your own instance.

The fediverse is built such that anyone can take the solution someone else built, e.g. the Lemmy or Mastodon source code, and host it themselves, without having to build their own version. This is a feature, and you’re just too lazy to use it.

I mean, it’s your instance so that’s your call, right? All it means is your community will be smaller because fewer people will make it through the filter of your values, but if your goal isn’t endlessly adding users then who cares if the community you build stays small? The beauty of the Fediverse.

“Should be”? Where do you think you are, Walmart? This is free and nobody is making money off your use of it. If you don’t like the way other people run their servers, make your own with blackjack and hookers. Complaining makes you seem entitled, like you crashed a party and started bitching about the canapes, because there’s nothing stopping you from having your own party.

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“Death” would be the noun, “die” the (intransitive) verb. “Dead” would be the adjective, i.e. the condition.

Although it has to be said that there’s a lot of flexibility and I’m pretty sure you could find valid ways to use each of them in all cases.

Very nice, that’s a great chip! I’m excited for you, enjoy the new rig 😊

I’m very, very happy with the 9800X3D, so you can save yourself a bit of cash there to put towards the GPU. With a fast modern CPU like that, you might even consider an Intel B580 to relieve that GPU bottleneck.

I’m sorry, now we’re not just simulating rays to trace, we’re emulating simulating rays to trace? How is that more efficient?! Computer science == warlockry, change my mind.

Musk breaks silence

WHAT silence? That asshole has been the source of a rising crescendo of bullshit covering an increasingly broad range of topics on which he is absolutely unqualified to comment for years. The miracle would be if he managed to shut the fuck up for several consecutive moments.

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