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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • I appreciate your voice of caution.

    To the second half of your comment, I think I’d propose we do not necessarily always need an asterisk on a male-specific support space. Yes, we should all support each other, but I think modern feminism and the good of the feminist movement has shown us that many, many decent men are quietly suffering just to get by, and not necessarily a part of the reactive toxic masculinity sphere. Perhaps finding the maturity for that balanced space where anyone can generally support any other still needs an interim step, slowly working towards a more centered place of generalised acceptance, and, dare I ask for it, calm.

    It is also possible we’re talking past each other, but I felt it worth saying :)






  • To the social part, it’s a corporate stand-in for actually interacting and being in your community. While it can still very much be used for that, instead of living our lives mostly within our communities, we talk to the entire world. Without boundaries, I don’t inherently think that’s a good thing.

    To the execs part: Social media is currently made to be as addictive as possible. It’s heroine for average ppl killing time, and dangerously pulls you out of reality/blurs the bounds. The Internet is in many ways an amazing place, but there’s a reason tech execs keep their youths away from it: it’s bad for living life.

    Sorry to be all doom and gloom, I think about this a lot lol










  • I’m sorry I didn’t respond sooner, I just wanted to give this the time it deserved :)

    I agree the man-up mentality needs to die, or at least be dialed back. It’s not inherently bad, tough love is a thing, but our society has taken manning up to an untenable extreme. For the record, I think the meme did an excellent job of putting a truthful light on the current reality - it definitely got us talking!

    I agree about DEI, and love your comment about equality. Ppl often forget that equality means for everyone, and I think men are villainized as a general punching bag (punching up?). In this respect, I think men maybe pay a price that is overlooked for the more tangible equity issues (e.g. pay and service access for minorities)? But I’m cautious to bang that drum too hard haha just thinking it through.

    I see what you’re digging at about therapy, and it’s possibly a perception issue on my end. It’s hard to tell someone they need therapy at any time, and my sensitivities may just be coming into play there. Therapy can be incredibly helpful.

    Women absolutely get saddled with unfair emotional labour. I think it’s a bit of a downstream effect of unhealthy male emotions, in that men are taught to clam up and hide from feelings for decades, then get into relationships with women who just want the best for their partners. Men finally have a safe place for the first time in their lives, and BOOM all of it comes out with no skill at managing it haha. I’m not excusing this behavior, it can lead to some bad outcomes. I think there’s a balance - ppl in relationships need to do their fair share or emotional labour (relationships aren’t always 50/50, sometimes they’re 90/10), and men haven’t been taught to do their half. But at some point, they also need to take accountability and learn to do their half, dang it (see tough love lol).

    All in all, I agree this is a stupidly complex topic, and I agree we proooobably won’t fix mens’ relationships with the world and themselves in this conversation, but we can try! That said, I’d be very happy if we could find a way to meme our way to a better place for everyone :) thank you for digging into it with me!


  • I have a first gen, and it does. There was some coding stickiness, and (i haven’t been able to solve) a key that the fingerprint reader doesn’t get access too. The effect is that it logs you in and then you get a pop-up that asks for your system password (though you can start using right away). I’m only a junior level coder though, ans just haven’t solved it- others might have.

    Imo, the framework might mostly meet your spec. I came from a 2012 mac and the build quality and feel are the best I’ve seen in a non-apple laptop.

    One comment on audio, I find mine can be tinny, verging in crappy. This may have been upgraded in more recent models.

    Finally, I know you don’t want AMD, but they have an AMD AI motherboard that I thought looked very interesting, at least for complex processing. Perhaps it will be of value to explore further? Just a thought.

    Happy shopping! :)