Others have left some detailed and interesting responses. I’ll keep mine very short.
Drugs.
Talk to your vet about drugs. Some people need anti anxiety meds to function. There are a lot of options to try. I won’t try to convince you of anything specific but I’m sure your vet can provide some options.
Thanks for reading and good luck.
I didn’t see many legitimate answers to your question here so I’ll try. Forget the details such as specific processor and memory. Don’t get lost in the details of this anology.
Imagine you have a very basic computer and a very advanced, powerful computer. You install Lubunutu on each. The basic computer might require 5% of it’s resources just to run the operating system. The advanced computer needs just 0.5% of it’s resources to run the OS.
This sounds like a big difference. 10x more resources required for the basic computer! Really though one has 95% left to run other things and one has 99.5%.
If I gave you two glasses of water that were 95% full and 99.5% full you could easily tell the difference between the two. One is basically overflowing and the other is just full. You wouldn’t describe either as being half full though.
Now imagine you put something like Fedora workstation on that basic computer. This OS is designed for powerful workstations not basic hardware. The basic computer is going to struggle to run it. Let’s say it uses 30% of it’s resources just to run and spikes to 70% usage when you open anything else.
Put that half full glass of water next to the others. Definitely a big difference and you’re going to know it.
Things like Lubunutu aren’t designed to make powerful computers fast it’s meant to make more basic hardware useable. The powerful computer is going to be fast no matter what and you probably want some of the features left out of an OS designed for pure efficiency.
Alpine Linux’s storage requirements are measured in MBs. My router runs a version of Linux. Supercomputers run versions of Linux. Software should be matched to hardware and needs.
Hopefully this helps you!
I’m surprised no one is really talking about asexuality. Sexuality is a spectrum. It’s entirely possible and perfectly fine if romantic relationships aren’t as important to you as they are to other people.
I know people who spend entire nights crying and reinforcing their dogs separation anxiety because they can’t find a partner. Others that are much closer to retirement than college who have never had a serious romantic partner and don’t seek one.
You probably shouldn’t prioritize work over personal life. You also don’t have to be in relationships if you don’t want to. I would recommend keeping an open mind and not getting stuck on labels. If partners and relationships aren’t something you think about a lot that’s ok. If not having that bothers you then you might want to seek professional help to assist in figuring out why you’re avoiding relationships.
Also keep in mind that basically every country on the planet heavily encourages marriage and children so get used to skipping all those options on your taxes and benefits.
Hello,
Others have given good advice on narrowing down the issue. I’ll just say that I don’t think you’ll ever get stability with 8gb for win 11. Ubuntu is going to struggle sometimes with the 4gb left for it too.
I would look into upgrading the ram first. Old laptop ram can be very cheap. I doubled the memory in a laptop for my mom by adding a 16gb stick I got on eBay for $20.
If it has an empty slot just buy an exact copy of the module it has and it will probably work. If both slots are occupied you’ll have to do some research to find the correct modules and it might not be worth the money and hassle.