Sounds like we have the same reading of that statement, and I would say a very similar reading applies to “you’re responsible for getting yourself off.” My issue is with people misappropriating the message to assert that it’s somehow okay to be apathetic to your partner’s needs.
I agree. It’s weird because in my (completely unqualified) option, that IS what the patient should be told, but their SO should almost be told the opposite
You ARE responsible for your own happiness.
Sometimes that means leaving the relationship because your partner doesn’t do things that help you accomplish that goal, or actively hinders it.
But no one can MAKE you happy. They can only provide an environment that helps it be easier.
Sounds like we have the same reading of that statement, and I would say a very similar reading applies to “you’re responsible for getting yourself off.” My issue is with people misappropriating the message to assert that it’s somehow okay to be apathetic to your partner’s needs.
I agree. It’s weird because in my (completely unqualified) option, that IS what the patient should be told, but their SO should almost be told the opposite
Like it’s a message ONLY for them
Oh, yeah. Jerks abuse proper terminology. That drives me mad