It rather seems to me that you’re only responding to the generalized ideas I’m trying to present as they relate to your own specific experience, and using that as a way to discount or invalidate the concept entirely. I don’t see the point in going to bat so hard for this. I’m not telling you how to raise the humans you’ve chosen to be responsible for, I’m just saying that’s another kind of relationship. Relationship anarchy is very specifically not “free love”, which clearly wasn’t so free anyways. Love is free, sure, but these days so many people’s time is money; taking the time to choose what relationships you participate in, and what that participation looks like, can’t possibly be a bad idea, and that’s the idea with RA.
That’s not correct, you told me to not have kids before I accept your brand of relationship management which, still just is free love with a cooler name to me.
Also, fuck me for asking about your passion and trying to understand? It seems like free love, the moral concept most learn while very young. I don’t think adding in conscious choice or evaluation of friends makes it different at all. These are things people do in school mostly and which parents teach their kids about. It is already included in the neat package of free love. You may like or dislike who you want. We can give advice, but not choose for you.
I struggle to understand because it feels like there should be a nugget of wisdom in there but it’s kind of frustrating at the same time that it doesn’t say anything. Sorry.
It rather seems to me that you’re only responding to the generalized ideas I’m trying to present as they relate to your own specific experience, and using that as a way to discount or invalidate the concept entirely. I don’t see the point in going to bat so hard for this. I’m not telling you how to raise the humans you’ve chosen to be responsible for, I’m just saying that’s another kind of relationship. Relationship anarchy is very specifically not “free love”, which clearly wasn’t so free anyways. Love is free, sure, but these days so many people’s time is money; taking the time to choose what relationships you participate in, and what that participation looks like, can’t possibly be a bad idea, and that’s the idea with RA.
That’s not correct, you told me to not have kids before I accept your brand of relationship management which, still just is free love with a cooler name to me.
Also, fuck me for asking about your passion and trying to understand? It seems like free love, the moral concept most learn while very young. I don’t think adding in conscious choice or evaluation of friends makes it different at all. These are things people do in school mostly and which parents teach their kids about. It is already included in the neat package of free love. You may like or dislike who you want. We can give advice, but not choose for you.
I struggle to understand because it feels like there should be a nugget of wisdom in there but it’s kind of frustrating at the same time that it doesn’t say anything. Sorry.