yes, i know i talk about my girlfriend a lot, i’m so sorry for that.

so, ivy is a gamer who plays for hours a day (not sure how many hours because “it’s a secret”). now, she really likes me and she will call me and such and text me (though she says she’s not good at texting so texting is rare).

sometimes we will hang out and go on dates, but on those dates, it’s just me watching her play video games. she has tried to get me into video games and i am changing a bit of my personality for her to become a gamer.

so far, i just play doki doki literature club, minecraft, and roblox, which i would say i play for about 2 hours max and 15 minutes minimum.

i make plenty of time for ivy. in fact, i can’t stop thinking about ivy unless i play games, sadly. i don’t want to develop, however, as much of a problem as she has.

ivy has a busy social life. she has her mom and dad she spends time with (all she does is play video games by herself, with guy friends, or with her dad), she has a lot of friends, all that stuff.

now, i won’t say her life is perfect. she has various mental illnesses and could be using gaming as a form of escapism because she doesn’t have to deal with reality that way.

but yeah, i play games too but i am not nearly as much of a gamer as she is, and my friends all say that this is completely fine and that i shouldn’t break up with her over this.

therefore, i won’t. i have noticed a reoccurring pattern, though, with having a type of gamers romantically, and most of them preferring video games over quality time together.

my one ex actually left me for video games and called me an abuser for asking if we could spend more time together. then she blocked me.

anyway, she doesn’t think about me a lot besides the times where she’s not playing video games and rarely bothers to call or text except for sometimes because she’s too busy with her game to take a damn break.

therefore, i wanna think about her as often as she does about me so that i can stop getting hurt. it makes me sad every time i think about her.

is gaming the answer??

  • TribblesBestFriend@startrek.website
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    2 months ago

    Gaming is not the answer

    You cannot be the one to do the job for two persons in a relationship

    Also I suggest that you take an appointment with a shrink

    • nymnympseudonym@piefed.socialEnglish
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      2 months ago

      Honestly I wish people treated their emotions like their plumbing.

      When something is making wierd noises or seems like it’s going whack or spewing shit on you, you call a pro

      Human emotions are way way more complex and fiddly than plumbing. Don’t be stupid and wind up covered in feces. Hire a pro.

      • TribblesBestFriend@startrek.website
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        2 months ago

        That’s good advice. I’ll tried to remember the saying

        A Mom’s friend of mine had a saying which was (translated) : we eat shit according to our appetite

        • nymnympseudonym@piefed.socialEnglish
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          2 months ago

          Paraphrasing Robert Heinlein:

          Editors are people who like the taste of a drink better after they’ve pissed in it a little