To be succinct and private… My incubator worked me for weeks to build rapport and trust with me in my younger days, to get me to tell her a something that she would ultimately, and immediately use and weaponize against me and others.

This wasnt the first time I tried to have a relationship with her, but it did finally open my eyes and become the last. In the many many decades since, I’ve not so much as acknowledge her existence when crossing paths.

  • OmegaMouse@pawb.social
    12·
    12 hours ago

    This feels quite minor compared to most of the stuff here, but something that has stuck with me.

    I was on holiday with my parents when I was younger - maybe around 12 or 13. We were on a short boat trip, and I noticed my dad was wearing a baseball cap. In my mind I had this cute scene of me taking the hat off his head and putting it on myself, and all of us laughing. Kinda wholesome. But the second I reach for the hat he whacks me hard around the back of my head. I was more confused than anything - why did he instantly resort to violence? I hated the injustice of it; the image in my mind of doing something fun, something you’d see other families doing, but then the actual result being the complete opposite. I never understood it, but then I’ve never had much in common with my dad.

    • GreatWhiteBuffalo41@slrpnk.netEnglish
      1·
      42 minutes ago

      Man I feel like I had those moments all the time in my family. I’m just going to do this fun harmless thing and they’re going to enjoy it only to get hurt, yelled at or, grounded then be really really confused and try to get clarification on what the hell just happened and the response I get is “you know what you did!” Which made me more mad cause clearly I don’t and I’m an angry crier then I’d get the “I’ll give you something to cry about!”

      Yeah I don’t have and will have have kids of my own…

      But anyways, I relate and I’m so sorry that happened to you.

    • A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      9·
      12 hours ago

      I think your dad hitting you for no reason is a very valid, very not-minor issue friend.

      We’re not in the olympics, We’re not racing for the gold medal in misery. We don’t need to compare and rank what we’ve been through against others to find a winner.

      What you went through shattered the image you had of father and family, and is very real and valid.