Some context does involve me opening up to this person and they telling me it’s cute that I open over text, being lonely might make me get attached to them quickly.

The whole thought is if they didn’t have same feelings about me; should I be open and say I should pursue a healthy relationship or just not say anything and let it come out through my actions

  • thisisbutaname@discuss.tchncs.de
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    10 hours ago

    That’s a really bad idea. Don’t do it.

    Even if this person likes you and enjoys your company, they won’t appreciate it. It’ll make them feel uncomfortable and wary of you. As others have said, love is way too big a word for someone you’re not in a relationship with.

    I know you mean well, but read about love bombing and why it’s bad.

    As an aside, be mindful of why you feel you love them. Have you been harboring those feelings for a long time without expressing them? Did you build a future with them in your head? Some of those things can come off as staker-ish if dumped on someone, making them feel you’ve included them in something without their input.

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      Yeah, love is only for people you’re in a relationship with and those you aren’t seeking a relationship with. You can say you love your best friend, but if you start dating them, while the intensity of your feelings for each other may increase, the relationship is back to an early stage, just in a new track. You haven’t built that track up enough for that word to feel safe and comfortable.

      When you’re pining over a friend you’re partly thinking of them in the romantic relationship track. This means professing love doesn’t just come off as “I care deeply for you” or “I’m interested in romance”, it comes off as “we’re getting pretty serious in my head, you should get in on it.”

      In general mismatched feelings are deeply uncomfortable and the more mismatched they are the less comfortable.