Bit of a shower thought: Outside of limited circumstances, like interviews or therapy, nobody is really expected to give you honest feedback on how you come across.
This sucks. I’ve been told I come across as unfriendly once, but I have no idea if I was just nervous and tired at the time. I still cherish that one moment almost 10 years ago when someone told me I was funny in some corporate team building bs.
Now, I could ask friends and family, but I believe they would probably not tell me the full, honest truth. After all, they (hopefully) like me and I would probably avoid being too harsh to everyone but very close people in private.
At the same time, I know plenty of people who really should get some feedback, who probably believe they are funny while everyone is bored and annoyed and hopes they talk a little less and the like.
So, are there socially accepted ways to get feedback on how you come across?
I realize that people are strange, relationships are hard, P!=NP and anime is not real. Still, it would be nice to have.
I suggest a tutor for giving presentations, public relations or something along those lines. They’re used to giving gentle advice and want you to do better so you can refer more people to them.
Huh, interesting. To be fair, I seem to fall into a whole different “mode” when presenting. Once I stand up and the adrenaline kicks in, I basically run on autopilot. I’ve been told I’m quite good at bullshitting my way through, so at least that’s something.
This is for the training, letting them see you how you actually are. Not the actual presentation. If you tell them what you’re after, I bet they’d help out. This would be up to you to not present anything, but treat them like your buddy.