a ring should cost about as expensive as 1–3 of your toys. Eg. if you go four wheeling a lot, or fishing, or mountain biking, play guitar or other instruments, or have an expensive gaming rig, etc. A ring, if your girl wants one, should be as expensive at least as one of those.
If you spend more on yourself than her ring, she will see that and think about what that means for your marriage, if she cares about a ring that much that she cares about how much it costs. She’ll see you spending money for your entertainment in 8 years (because you see yourself with her and making her happy in 8 years right?), while her ring is dinky and not sparkling. A wonderful symbol of your marriage that she might have wanted to care about more, but you denied her that with a $65 ring. I suppose you want her to pay for her own if she wants one that is nicer, or split it half way since that’s fair?
Women arent necessarily being materialistic when they ask for a $6,500 diamond ring. Whether you believe them or not is up to you. Whether those women are attractive to you or not is up to you
My point is: as far as diamond engagement rings go, a $6,500 wife getter aint bad, if thats what she wants. If you dont want a partner who wants a $6,500 diamond engagement ring go you, go find that one and keep them, too! But if you arent disgusted by women who wants a diamond ring, one that is thoroughly pleased by a $6,500 one—thats a keeper
Rings can look nice under a couple hundred bucks and if you want to buy one, the symbol is still there.
I personally would be 100% okay spending big money on something that is actually worth it. When I see a really expensive product (like a ring), I just see 99% of it being profit. On the other hand, a trip together or getting them a “toy” (like you mentioned, nothing weird) would be way better.
Going back to symbols, the only one that matters is the one in your head. If someone would look at their ring and think less of it or less of their partner because it wasn’t pricey enough, I wouldn’t want to be their partner.
That being said, I get your point. If you can afford to spend 10s of thousands on yourself and then buy your partner a $30 ring, that would suck (I can understand why the reciever would think they aren’t worth anything). It wouldn’t suck if the ring was still nice looking though, but you gotta spend at least $70-100 for a nice one I think.
Over $1000 seems ridiculous to me in any situation though. Again, not an expert, but seems like a “natural” vs lab diamond debate. I see the “natural” ones as exploitative of workers and consumers.
if your girl is excited for a $6500 ring you marry that woman. Rings easily get $10,000+.
$65 ring
If you need a 1000+ ring ur gonezo
a ring should cost about as expensive as 1–3 of your toys. Eg. if you go four wheeling a lot, or fishing, or mountain biking, play guitar or other instruments, or have an expensive gaming rig, etc. A ring, if your girl wants one, should be as expensive at least as one of those.
If you spend more on yourself than her ring, she will see that and think about what that means for your marriage, if she cares about a ring that much that she cares about how much it costs. She’ll see you spending money for your entertainment in 8 years (because you see yourself with her and making her happy in 8 years right?), while her ring is dinky and not sparkling. A wonderful symbol of your marriage that she might have wanted to care about more, but you denied her that with a $65 ring. I suppose you want her to pay for her own if she wants one that is nicer, or split it half way since that’s fair?
Women arent necessarily being materialistic when they ask for a $6,500 diamond ring. Whether you believe them or not is up to you. Whether those women are attractive to you or not is up to you
My point is: as far as diamond engagement rings go, a $6,500 wife getter aint bad, if thats what she wants. If you dont want a partner who wants a $6,500 diamond engagement ring go you, go find that one and keep them, too! But if you arent disgusted by women who wants a diamond ring, one that is thoroughly pleased by a $6,500 one—thats a keeper
I disagree, which is okay.
Rings can look nice under a couple hundred bucks and if you want to buy one, the symbol is still there.
I personally would be 100% okay spending big money on something that is actually worth it. When I see a really expensive product (like a ring), I just see 99% of it being profit. On the other hand, a trip together or getting them a “toy” (like you mentioned, nothing weird) would be way better.
Going back to symbols, the only one that matters is the one in your head. If someone would look at their ring and think less of it or less of their partner because it wasn’t pricey enough, I wouldn’t want to be their partner.
That being said, I get your point. If you can afford to spend 10s of thousands on yourself and then buy your partner a $30 ring, that would suck (I can understand why the reciever would think they aren’t worth anything). It wouldn’t suck if the ring was still nice looking though, but you gotta spend at least $70-100 for a nice one I think.
Over $1000 seems ridiculous to me in any situation though. Again, not an expert, but seems like a “natural” vs lab diamond debate. I see the “natural” ones as exploitative of workers and consumers.