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Cake day: April 3rd, 2026

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  • I’m a man in my early 30s and I’m single with no kids, still living with my parents, and working a part time job. As far as material things go, I’ve got a pretty nice car, a powerful gaming PC, and some money saved up (although not enough to actually move out.) If I want some new clothes, a new game, or just something nice within reason, I can afford it.

    That mostly sounds great on paper, but I’m really not where I want to be in life. I have lots of free time and some disposable income, but I’m being held down big time by a lifelong struggle with panic attacks and agoraphobia which has severely affected my ability to have a social life and maintain a circle of friends. I’m also very afraid of flying and traveling so I’m not seeing the world.

    I’m grateful for the good things, but the bad things are having a bigger impact. I need someone to share my time with, and someone to help me get out more. Then I need to get full time work and move out.















  • I’m from Northern Ireland so I can (try to) explain. It’s a joke about entrenched tribalism here. No matter who you are or what your beliefs are, you’re judged on where you’re from (a “Catholic area” or “Protestant area”) and what your family’s religious background is.

    For example, I’m considered to be a part of the Protestant/Unionist community due to where I grew up and who my family were even though I am completely non-religious and my worldview has no resemblance to that of traditional Unionism. I’m descended from British people who colonised the North of Ireland during the Ulster plantations.

    The joke is just exaggerating and poking fun at the divide, implying that you could be literally anyone and would still be asked if you’re Catholic or Protestant. I.e. “I’m Muslim” “Yes but are you a Catholic Muslim or a Protestant Muslim”.

    Hope this makes sense. Like pretty much everything with the past 5 centuries of Irish history, its hard to explain.