As the title says, how often do you admit you’re wrong? Is it different when it’s a factual dispute versus something more subjective?

I make an effort to concede early if I’m in error. I think because my mother almost never admits fault. She’ll fall back to “that’s not what I meant” or similar deflections first, and that’s really annoying.

The last big factual error I made was about the distance of walking, and that’s where I learned about Taxicab Geometry ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taxicab_geometry ).

I think some people believe admitting fault is a sign of weakness, but I find it’s more of a power move. It takes strength to do it, and people can tell when you’re sweating and desperate. Usually it leads to resolving the conflict faster and cheaper, too.

(I expect some people will feel the urge to reply they’re never wrong. I’ll file that under never admits fault.)

  • taiyang@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    Since having kids, anytime I make a mistake or jump to a conclusion, I try to model for them how to say sorry and make it right.

    That said, I don’t make mistakes that often; I’m much more likely to just say I don’t know or I have no opinion. I think it’s most important to teach people it’s ok to not know or have enough information to make a judgement.

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      I remember once when I was a kid, my uncle asked me something or other. I dithered for a bit, and then admitted I didn’t actually know. He said something really nice about how it’s much better to just say you don’t know than to dig deeper into bullshit. Really stuck with me, for some reason.