As she walked the aisles, MR said in an interview, she sensed a man standing close behind her. She turned to confront him and noticed that he was a good six inches taller than her. He was talking in graphic detail about sexual things he wanted to do to her. “You’re so disgusting, get away from me,” she told him, and hurried off to find her friend.

Still, he stayed close, and for a few tense minutes the two of them locked eyes while she waited in line to pay. When at last he left, she thought that was the end of it – until, back outside in the chill of the winter morning, she felt something cold against the back of her leggings.

The man had ejaculated on her.

“I didn’t know how to react. I wanted to kill this man,” said MR, who was 47 at the time, recalling the horror and helplessness she felt as her friend wiped her off with towels. (The Guardian has verified MR’s identity but is not publishing her full name to protect her privacy.)

Hours later, on the advice of a sister who worked in law enforcement, she fished her soiled leggings out of the garbage and took them back to the store to report what had happened. A clerk listened to her account and, not seeming to realize that MR understood Spanish, shouted to a colleague in a backroom: “Tenemos otra.”

“We’ve got another one.”

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    Not even addressing ridiculous male chauvinism, weapons exist, also element of surprise, guns, etc

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      Not allowed to carry weapons, mace etc. where I live. What should my 5’4" Wife do in this situation?

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        Pepper spray. Seriously. It’s not expensive and it should be legal. Way easier to use and no permanent damage either. Just press the button and spray those fuckers.

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          Yeah, would absolutely ask them to carry it, but again, illegal in my Nanny-Country of Australia. Sucks to be a vulnerable person here, with minimal ways to defend yourself.

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              A first‑time offence carries a maximum fine of $33,300 or up to 2 years imprisonment. Repeat offences attract higher fines and mandatory custodial sentences. Courts consider the intent, quantity, and whether the spray was used in a public place. Even possession of an empty canister can be prosecuted as “possession of a prohibited weapon.”

              Yeah…

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                Uhmmm what the fuck?! Yeah I got no idea then. I assume tasers are banned as well. Does your law even allow self defense then? Maybe a walking stick/cane that can be used for defense?

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                  Self defence is allowed, with “appropriate force”. No weapons to deliver that force though, including tasers.

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                    Yeah that’s just fucked. If you’re a small woman or even a small man that is weaksr than the average man you need a force multiplier AKA weapon to be able to even reach appropriate force. Glad we’re allowed to own pepper spray where I live.

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        Sharp object under jaw pointing upwards. Use both hands and full force.

        Alternatively, bite down as hard as you can on the throat.

        Stores sell knives and other sharp or pointy objects. Or blunt objects.

        I dunno man, be creative. Maybe panic and shit your pants because woman helpless and weak and inferior to man uwu 🎻

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          You legitimately can’t carry anything resembling a weapon in Australia, sharp or blunt. In my state, brandishing a blunt object like a cricket bat can get you jail time.

          So I’m not asking to stir the pot, I seriously fear for my Wife and Daughter’s safety, and I can’t do anything about it. I guess societal pressure on these predators is the only tool we can use here.

          There’s too many sick fucks like this all over the world. If we lived in a country with more relaxed laws, they would both be packing at least mace, preferably a pistol.

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            this may sound silly, but the best you can do forvyour daughter is make sure she has proper self esteem.

            Cant carry a weapon, a woman who values herself to not be dragged is a solid weapon in itself.