so basically can’t I just make my own server for just my account and delete the
sign up button ? basically no communities , just a server for my own account and
federate with other servers ?
You and I are both using Lemmy via the Lemmy.ml instance. If Lemmy.ml blocks (aka “defederates from”) another Lemmy instance, you and I won’t be able to interract with people on that blocked instance.
The gay mods can still defederate from your instance though
The part with gay mods is clear, but what do you mean by defederate from the instance?
You and I are both using Lemmy via the Lemmy.ml instance. If Lemmy.ml blocks (aka “defederates from”) another Lemmy instance, you and I won’t be able to interract with people on that blocked instance.
You can seen the block list here: https://lemmy.ml/instances