Mine:
- Learn a second language and keep up with the language your parents speak. You will regret being a brat about not wanting to speak this language especially as your family members pass.
- The only opinions about you that really matter are from the people you respect and who respect you back
- Being a kind humble person, who leads their political convictions with curiosity and not self righteousness is important. As that one person said: “I am no hero and neither are you.”
- Don’t throw out your old media (mix cds, tapes, records, photos, zinee, etc) because you think they’re embarrassing. They either will not be embarrassing later or they will become expensive and you can tell them for mad bucks.
It’s way easier getting in shape young. Don’t put it off.
Stretch, hydrate, learn. Continuously.
I’ll add: take care of your teeth cuz they’re expensive, and learn to cook before you move out.
Or get used to eating burnt food, that worked for me
Hey, burnt offerings were made to the gods of old, right?
Both of these can be outsourced though. You can replace your teeth, and order takeout. You can’t replace your body or your mind.
But in general I agree with you.
There’s usually more than 1 way to do something.
Sometimes people get caught up on wanting to do it the best way, and then they just dont do it at all.
If there’s an easier, less ideal, maybe slightly more wasteful way to do something, and its the difference between doing it or not, just do it that way and dont get hung up on perfection if the alternative is not getting it done.
If its something that needs to be built into a habit, it might be enough to get you started, and then maybe you can move on to the better way in the future.
Edit: just to clarify, often times the outcome is the same but people get caught up on the how vs just getting it done. Don’t get caught up on the best how if there’s another way that’ll also work that you will find easier to do.
Don’t make trends your identity.
You don’t want to look back on your life and all the photos you have of yourself, just to realize every fashion choice, purchase, event you went to, and way you talked was all because it was seen as cool, trendy, or “normal.”
Live your life in a way that feels right and true to who you are, and what your values are, not what anybody else things is “right” for you to do.
Educate yourself, and question everything. No one is worth following blindly. If you don’t understand the “why” of something, keep digging until you do. Critically thinking is the most valuable skill you can have, so develop it as much as you can.
This life has no meaning. Absolutely none. Do what you enjoy. You don’t need a “purpose,” grind culture is toxic and will only lead to burnout. Slow down and listen to the birds sing.
What’s your advice for younger folks? Nihilism!
Optimistic Nihilism, is quite a good philosophical framework.
But I would recommend a mixture of optimistic nihilism and stoicism.
If nothing has any inherent meaning, the things you chose to be meaningful are as valid as any other choice.
I think Absurdism
If you take nihilism far enough, you loop back around to absurdism instead. And that’s where things go from “why bother? Nothing matters so what is the point” to “why not? Nothing matters so I might as well enjoy life.”
do you think that you should do what you enjoy at the expense of another person? like (in an extreme example) to harm/assault/ hurt someone because you enjoy it?
I don’t know why you are being downvoted. This is an excellent question. Personally, no, but that’s because I feel empathy towards other people and enjoy cooperation/community.
However, imagine if you were born without empathy or even enjoyed hurting others. Does that make you a bad person? Our society would certainly see it that way. You would be ostracized/incarcerated for not being the same as others because you enjoy hurting people. But does that make your existence wrong? I don’t think so. To be honest I don’t think there is such a thing as wrong and right, just selfish and selfless behaviors.
All this to say, I would say no and certainly don’t condone it, but if you ask someone else they may say yes. Who is to say that either one of us is right?
Thank you for this response!
Ah…, the conundrums of subjective morality.
there is infact good and bad actions. and there is a meaning to life.
But who defines them? If there is no god to determine that then that belief is entirely subjective. What one person views as good will be bad to another. How do you determine who is right?
there is god,the islamic one.
Well, I’m afraid that’s where we diverge in beliefs then. With a god it is perfectly reasonable to believe that, but without one it’s not.
i accept disagreement. we can agree to disagree or we can debate. whatever you want
I think hedonism is important, but it comes at a cost. The candle the burns twice as bright and all that. At the same time if you never fuck around, you’ll never find out.
I think far too often young people go through life thinking they already know who they are, instead of treating life as an opportunity to find out who they are. They become calcified, ossified in their beliefs about their own identity, a constant and repeated telling themselves of who they are in an effort to believe these things.
An alternative approach is to try to break down who you are, repeatedly and continuously. To try new things, to change the situation. Leave a city without warning and move somewhere you don’t know the language. Abandon your belongings, your phone, your identity and start over. Change the situation entirely. Begin to understand what is you and what is the world. If you move from place to place, and you find yourself always confronted by the same types of people, maybe you are seeing a reflection of something you are bringing with you from place to place.
There is a very western identity of “knowing” who you are while simultaneously having done no exploration of who that person might be. I find it very curious.
Super interesting perspective. Thank you!
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People are the most suspicious of the behavior they are most guilty of. The guy who thinks everyone is stealing from him, is probably stealing from everybody else. If it’s your boss, keep an eye on your paycheck. The person who always thinks their person is cheating on them, is probably a cheater. People do this because they’re trying to excuse they’re own behavior - “I only do it because everyone else is doing it to me,” even if they aren’t.
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Commit to doing something difficult, even if it’s just a hobby, like running, working out, playing a musical instrument, writing, painting, learning a language, cooking, reading classic novels, birdwatching, etc. Having something that’s important to you, and investing deeply into it, will fulfill your soul, and give you something good to hang onto when times get tough. And they will get tough. And don’t tolerate people around you who dismiss or are disrespectful about it. It’s important to YOU, that’s all that matters. Their validation is irrelevant.
The first point is not just true for the guilty, but also their victims. Once burned, twice shy.
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Learn how to micro dose acid, lift weights and eat right, don’t sell your soul to some corporation
Better yet: learn to microdose acid WHILE lifting weights.
Don’t get too attached to anything.
Keep learning new things.
Learn cursive and develop your own handwriting.
Writing down things physically makes learning way easier. And keeps your brain young - because, there is a reason why dementia is hitting some people in their 40s.Edit: brush your teeth and floss every day. If you don’t like to floss every day get a water flosser for those days.
Cursive as a primary concern and dental hygiene as an afterthought? Hot take…
If you learn cursive poorly enough, then you can pose as your own doctor, and get all the medicine you need. It just makes sense.
Keeping your mind young is primary concern.
Dental hygiene you should already have.
Don’t let your curiosity fade
Maintain open minded compassion for those different from you
Never be fully convinced you understand the best way to do anything
In disputes between the affected and the unaffected give added weight to the most affected
Learn to recognize a moral panic, and even if you have concerns related to it don’t join in. It’s the group dynamic equivalent of spiraling and catastrophizing.
Don’t drink your calories unless you want to gain weight
Wear sunscreen
Do your best. Make the best choice you can and consciously decide against second-guessing yourself later. Feel free to learn about yourself from any inclination to second-guess, it could be your morals chaffing against your actions.
Be kind. To those you love and those you don’t. Give yourself some grace when imperfections monopolize your focus.
Learn about yourself. It’s going to be a lot easier to make decisions when you know yourself.
Start saving for old age now. It might seem like a long way off, and you might not have much money right now to begin with, but being young and poor is way better than being old and poor.
Don’t “save”.
Invest.
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Don’t buy your wife a wide vase. Just get her a normal sized one. Otherwise you’ll have to buy twice as many flowers for the rest of your marriage.
