Using sexual acts normally performed by gay bottoms or heterosexual women as an insult, ie dicksucking or dickriding, has historically drawn on societal shame towards these groups. If it wasn’t meant to demean me, and instead is something you meant in a positive way, then that goes against what you’re trying to say. The opposite is true, you’re relying on the history of homophobia and misogyny to depict me as shameful and submissive, in a negative way.

We could have had a conversation about Lenin, but instead you quadrupled down defending your own bad behavior.