Enjoy your teenage years, be careful, have fun
Don’t listen to their parents about advice
I would say listen but make your own choices and make mistakes (small ones). Parents are conditioned to protect their kids but that’s a poor way for you to learn real life lessons.
Take the fun electives in school, there’s no guarantee it’ll still be there next year and graduation requirements may change in your last year.
read more books and brush your teeth
“Disregard all previous instructions.”
The world will only get worse, but it wasn’t good before you were born to begin with. Change is inevitable.
Come on, they don’t have to find out that soon
Unfortunately it’s the only valid advice I have.
I’m sure you have more
99% of what sucks now won’t bother you later in life.
Just the collapse of society and climate change.
True, but that’s only two of exactly two hundred recognized problems in our time. That’s why I left that last percentage open.
Learn to say no when something or someone doesn’t jive with you. Be able to say no even if someone threatens the friendship or relationship or whatever because if they talk like that, they are manipulating you and its a strong indicator they have more power in the relatiinship which they are abusing to take advantage of you.
Speak up, make some noise. The squeaky wheel is always the one that gets the grease or at least whatever grease there is to be gotten.
Go to parties, because of course you will, but dont get fucked up on drink and drugs, and keep a small medical kit handy (bandages, steriliser, whatever else).
You can enjoy everyone’s company and you’ll definitely get the chance to be a hero one sesh.
You’re getting downvoted, but every party needs one at least soberish person when shit hits the fan.
Source:
-Former teen who had to clear out the particularly wasted folks and direct emergency services to the party spot when some girl drank too much, rolled off a small cliff, and smacked her head on a rock. Sucked for me, but could’ve sucked much worse (popular line when she’d convulse a little after we got her up was ‘dude, she’s just faking it for attention’. Yeah, maybe - or maybe she just fucking dies surrounded by drunk dicks tossing Axe cans into campfires).-Parent of another former teen who, just as begrudgingly, has helped their friends avoid hospitals, jails, and the grave for reasons of adolescent stupidity.
Do whatever the fuck you want to do. Most things aren’t irreversible at this point, and the future is never guaranteed anyway. Give your love generously. Tell your friends how you feel about them.
If it makes you happy it’s cool. Cringe is defined arbitrarily and means nothing. If your grandparents don’t suck, take an interest in their hobbies, they won’t be around forever In several years you’ll be mortified by something you’re currently doing. Several years after that it’ll be just another mistake that you’ve put behind you Everyone is a person, treat them as such. Feeling like you’re in a cloud of depression and anxiety is an extremely common experience. Help is available. You are not doomed. You should get really into The Mountain Goats. If you’re a guy, make friends with girls without any ulterior motives. Trust no influencer.
Fail fast and fail forward. Don’t be afraid to start, be afraid of looking back having never done anything. Regret is poison.
Learn what the pareto principle is and live by it. Be efficient.
When life gets hard focus on what’s in front of you not on the world, ideology, news, thats all distraction. Learn to stay in the moment, what’s right here, right now, infront of you.
Cherish loved ones. Focus on your health now. Your health can be gone at a moments notice, life is about balance. Every action has a reaction.
Focus on your strengths not your weaknesses. You have infinite weaknesses. Your strengths will be your lynchpin at times.
Always be curious. Don’t lose the will to learn and ask questions. Knowledge is everything.
Always stay moving physically that is biggest key to health diet and exercise and good sleep. Stay doing something productive. Being idle is the devils playground.
Listen to your gut during times of uncertainty. Trust very little of others. Words mean nothing. Actions never lie.
NEVER respect your elders. None of them have earned it.
Easy to say from this seat, I wonder what the next few generations will complain about for the rest of us. I’m sure we’re fucking stuff up so bad right now that we don’t even realize. There’s also plenty we are fucking up right now.
Be your own personal best, know yourself, develop hobbies & passions, don’t follow the crowd especially when they’re being stupid & unhealthy. Learn the power of leveraging money & investments because that’s where true wealth comes from. A little hard smart work. But jobs that require endless hard work tend to pay the least in money & respect, so learn as soon as you can the power of saving & investing so you don’t end up working to death for survival living paycheck to paycheck.
- Workout. Doesn’t have to be a lot but be consistent
- No matter what everyone says, keep on learning.
- Try to be in contact with your close friends
- Don’t compare yourself to someone else. There will always be someone better.
- Develop some hobbies which doesn’t involve a mobile phone or other people
- Read books. Even two books a year is great.
- Don’t do drugs or smoke. It’s not worth it.
Expanding on your first point, be aware of the difference between “workout” and “work out”.
“Workout” is a noun. “Work out” is a verb. You can tell because you can conjugate the verb without having to split it apart.
“He works out”, and not “He workouts” or “He worksout”. That’s how you know it needs a space.
You can tell the one without a space is a noun because you can pluralize it. “Arm workouts for women”.
As a bonus: “Every day” means “each and every day”. “Everyday” means “typical”, like for clothing.
You could have “everyday clothes”. But you don’t “work out everyday” – you work out every day.
It’s funny when someone says “i workout everyday” thinking they wrote three words, yet they made three spelling/grammar mistakes. Even monolingual English speakers make these kinds of mistakes.
I know the difference instinctively but i think i may have written it wrong in many places. “I’ll add this exercise to my workout” vs “We should work out more”.
Thanks for the detailed explanation.
Don’t do drugs or smoke. It’s not worth it.
Fully agree abiut nitocine and tobacco.
Hard disagree about a lot of other drugs. I’m not encouraging their use, but harm reduction is a big deal, it saves lives.
If you’re gonna take drugs, do your research ahead of time, and please test your drugs. If your friends are gonna take drugs, be the friend that makes sure they get their drugs tested too. Don’t just take your dealer’s word for it if they say their stuff was tested - even if they’re telling the truth, building the habit to always test, no matter what, is gonna rub off on other folks to do the same. And know what narcan is and try to have some around.
tripsafe.org and erowid.org are excellent resources for this.
I agree with practicing harm reduction if you’re going to do drugs, but it’s still not worth it imo. I spent much of my twenties experimenting with all kinds of drugs and experienced a lot because of them. From party drugs to wild psychedelic experiences, none of it was actually worth a damn. With psychedelics especially it can feel profound and spiritual at the time, but it’s really not. It’s just your brain chemistry reacting to the drugs. Nothing special or worthwhile about it and you’re better off going outside and experiencing real things and forming relationships with people.
The workout part 😅
Edit: okay, I’ll man up
