Mine is porn addiction. I don’t ever want to become a coomer but I think I’ve became that already a few times in my life. I shamefully have watched porn, saved porn images and visualized people who’re probably not as into porn as I was.

I really do wish to be done with porn, it’s done nothing for me. I’ve masturbated for many years and I feel like it has hollowed out my mind. I don’t even get that much enjoyment from masturbating as much and the porn hasn’t really gotten any better so I guess I can say that I’ve seen porn when it was at its best when I was younger and everything.

Now all of it is just loli shit, artificial shit and that’s gross or the fetishes have gotten too niche and unappealing. I look around me in porn communities and I haven’t found anyone worthwhile to speak to or associate with. Everyone is six feet under in porn that there’s no way for them out.

  • DeICEAmerica@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    Cigarettes. Crack was easier to quit. Removing yourself from bad places and bad people doesn’t help with cigarettes. They are on every street corner shop in every town.

  • blackroses97@lemmy.zip
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    2 days ago

    For me its was self harm , it took over 10 years to stop finally . Im truly blessed that I healed mentally and physically ( barely any scarring , infections or anything of that matter )

  • RiverRock@lemmy.ml
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    2 days ago

    Dabs for sure. I didn’t know that you could use it heavily enough to cause actual physical withdrawal symptoms, but I sure found out

  • Weydemeyer@lemmy.ml
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    2 days ago

    Following the news.

    Between internet sites, twitch, podcasts, etc I spend hours a day just following the news.

    What’s insidious about this for me is that following the news is a good thing. I feel I’ve found enough solid news sources that I can stay informed about what’s happening in the world. When I don’t follow along with what’s happening I feel anxious, like I’m going to fall behind and then I will somehow get behind and not be able understand what’s happening around me.

    So while following the news in itself is not a bad thing, it has negative consequences in my life, mainly around time. It cuts into my time with my kids a bit. And it definitely cuts significantly into my time for reading books, which is probably my #1 hobby.

    I’ve tried to reduce the time I spend on it all but it doesn’t usually work. So it’s a habit I’m trying to kick but not really being successful at it.

    • Matty Roses@lemmygrad.ml
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      2 days ago

      I left the US 3 years ago

      I’ve always been well informed - but I realized I’ve made my choices, and most of checking the news now is looking for confirmation. It’s an anxiety behavior. It doesn’t change what I’ll do in any way - so why do I need to read it?

    • SilverFlame@lemmy.world
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      2 days ago

      I generally don’t condone AI use but this seems like a case where it may be beneficial. Is it possible to feed your news sources into a chat bot and have it generate a “daily feed” of headlines and summaries? If it works right it could save you a lot of time.

  • claymore@pawb.social
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    2 days ago

    I wish I had the willpower to stop wasting days in front of my PC and go out more, but it always feels impossible, no close friends, no car, live in a small town with an average age that’s probably in the 50s. All I do is go to work and come home to sit in my room. I also hate talking to new people over voice chat (and it takes me some time to warn up to someone when only talking over text) so I don’t do much socialising when sitting at home. I’ve been thinking of moving to a bigger city but that’s a whole other can of worms and doesn’t fix my ability to hold conversions past pleasantries

    • Crash@lemmy.ml
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      2 days ago

      I feel for you and I hope you can figure out a way to work on it! Therapy and pushing myself to socialize even when I don’t want to has helped me.

  • unrealMinotaur@sh.itjust.works
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    3 days ago

    Social media. I kicked out all the “algorithmic” stuff 6 years ago. Still find myself spending hours each day refreshing RSS feeds looking for a cheap dopamine hit.

  • oyo@lemmy.zip
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    3 days ago

    Using the phone in bed. Before going to sleep. Immediately after waking up.

  • Bronstein_Tardigrade@lemmygrad.ml
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    3 days ago

    To stop smoking is a tough road to walk for anyone. I say stop, not quit, because I’m not sure the urge ever leaves you. Been 25 years for me, and just typing this makes me want a cigarette. At least a heroin addict can’t buy a fix at the nearest 7-11.

  • I Cast Fist@programming.dev
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    3 days ago

    I don’t consider myself a gooner or coomer or whatever, but there are days where I really feel like a fucking waste of a person due to how much I beat it. Sometimes I’m doing something else, but if I’m not focused, sometimes horny will just happen and that gets focus quite easily.

    I know the best way for me to get rid of that is to block sites via hosts file, as it’s a slight annoyance to edit it in Windows (gotta open notepad as admin, then make it open c:\windows\system32\drivers\etc\hosts), which is already enough to make me give up and do something else. I have added a bunch, but there are many that aren’t blocked and it’s so damn easy to find them…

    My silver lining is that I don’t use the phone for porn, so I only need to step away from my computer to avoid porn altogether, but the PC is my main addiction that I’m not even trying to break.

    • Hyacin (He/Him)@lemmy.mlEnglish
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      2 days ago

      You’ve got to taper. I’ve had hangovers after multi-week benders that didn’t hurt as bad as trying to drop caffeine cold turkey. I know tapering is counter intuitive and counter productive for a lot of addictions, but for caffeine it’s a must.

    • UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.mlEnglish
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      3 days ago

      going off caffeine

      No

      is fucking me up

      If youre not hurting other people I think youre doing a great job.

  • communism@lemmy.ml
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    3 days ago

    I don’t have any answer to the “hardest addiction” thing but OP, I don’t think watching a lot of porn is inherently a problem. Sometimes people just masturbate because they’re bored, in which case you should try to get some hobbies you find more fulfilling. But if you’re masturbating because you’re horny, why not, it does no harm.

    • davel@lemmy.mlEnglish
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      3 days ago

      Do it for your health. Ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer

      The scientists found no evidence that frequent ejaculations mark an increased risk of prostate cancer. In fact, the reverse was true: High ejaculation frequency was linked to a decreased risk. Compared to men who reported 4–7 ejaculations per month across their lifetimes, men who ejaculated 21 or more times a month enjoyed a 31% lower risk of prostate cancer. And the results held up to rigorous statistical evaluation even after other lifestyle factors and the frequency of PSA testing were taken into account.