I’m 19 now and engaged to my 17-year-old girlfriend, whom I’ve been with for three years. We have a wedding planned for September 2026. It has always been my dream to have a family of my own, and that motivated me to propose: why wait if you know what you want? Thankfully, my parents are supportive, and I’m aware that without them, none of this would be possible at our age.
No, that’s precisely my point. I don’t think you are decades older and extremely experienced. I think you’re both still very young. I’m not ascribing nefarious motives to you, I’m trying to let you know that rushing towards this dream without the proper base of maturity will not bring you what you dream of. You’ll just be sabotaging yourself by not allowing the both of you time to grow (and discover that your dreams might shift). There is no need to rush.
And yes, in my message there’s more concern for her than for you. For one, she is even younger than you and hasn’t known anyone else romantically since she was a child. You’ve mostly talked about really wanting to live up to your dream and only now say it’s a dream you share. There are many dreams teens (or even adults) share out of enmeshment and going along with someone because you’re not quite sure what you want yourself.
If you didn’t come here for the actual opinion of people who might actually have more experience than you and if you can’t handle the perspective of people telling you it’s a bad idea, why did you come here? For validation? You’re feeling misunderstood by me and others but that’s because you don’t want to hear the core of what many older people are trying to tell you. Regardless of love, of perfect fit together, of intentions, it is a bad idea to get married this early. That’s the answer to your question. Are there exceptions? Yes. Do I think you are one of those exceptions? Odds say, no.