A lot of people are telling you that you are too young and that the chances of such an early marriage lasting happily are very low.

These people are right. And I would say the same things.

But I also want to say that ultimately, it is for you and your partner to decide. Only you two can know for sure. Because the chances that you are making a sound decision at such early ages are very low… but not zero.

You both are going to change drastically (mentally and emotionally) in the coming decades and if you continue to be in love and maintain a desire to be together through all of that, that’ll be something.

If not… just understand that having kids now will terribly complicate things. For both of you and especially the kids.

I have a suggestion; continue dating. Don’t rush to get married, just stay engaged for now. If you really do stick together consider marrying after ten years or even twenty. You’ll have more time to save for a wedding and plan your futures together. Nothing is stopping you from living your lives together until then, and you will be MUCH more qualified to handle kids at a later age.

There is no real reason to get married now, especially if you live somewhere where you can register as partners and still get legal and financial benefits.

I honestly hope you guys make it together. Because that would be amazing to hear and because it gives people who have had one failed relationship after another hope.